Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now
One of the worst things that ever happened to women was the logic card. We rate, we debate and we rationalize whether or not we should even bother with him. What we’re forgetting- what we forget, consistently- is there are so many un-plucked, good guys that could be the answer. Not Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now, but Mr. Hello. Mr. Nice to meet you. Has Hollywood really destroyed your sense of romanticism and given you such unreal expectations that you’ll never take less? Less is more, when you want a relationship.
Of course, you can wait for Brad Pitt…if you’re Jolie-equese. If you’re one of the normal, average (yet beautiful) people you’ll need to start opening yourself up. To possibility. How much time are you wasting- and aging- by going through a negative list of how he doesn’t measure up? It’s tiring and it’s an absolute waste of time. He’s in your circumference if you look. A friend, a colleague, the man who always remembers your favorite magazine in the shop. The neighbor who always opens the door. The mailman that puts your letters priority. Available, attainable men. Good men that are waiting, in the back of their minds, for you.
The chase, the run, the capture all look great on paper. But when it comes down to it, are you really seeking a manipulator and a man that’s unreliable? Really? That’s the movie man: he woos, he enjoys himself, he disappears. He isn’t anywhere near stable. He’s a manicorn- what you think you want, until you have him. And then he’s simply messy. Emotionally, physically and slightly destructive to you. The golden guy, the elusive you’ve been looking for, already belongs to you. He’s there. Attentive. Ready to jump, if you just say the word.
The only thing holding you back is fear. Of refusal, of the dreaded ‘no.’ Take a moment to reflect, breathe, and ask him out. The worst that can happen is that he says ‘I can’t…’ The best, on the other hand, is that he can and will. Guys have been living in this tenuous place of possibility since they carted around clubs. By taking the chance, by getting outside of your dating box, you’re empowering yourself. He’ll love you for it, and so will you. The new feminism is making and acting on choices that make you happier.
It’s a proven fact that the best first dates are walks, without the intensity of staring. They’re also so much safer for both parties: you chat, listen and generally have the opportunity for touch. If you want. But on your terms. You can get a coffee, go for a wander and have an amazingly romantic time of it, without feeling like you’re on a Real Date. Ladies, you are selling yourselves so short by limiting the playing field. By running (and screaming) from making an attempt. And by closing your head to the full team of the interested, with petty and odd personal rules.
He’s out there. Waiting. Isn’t it about time you got out there, too? Source – Loverlawn.com
